As some of you know Im on a challenge that I can not have sex with a girl that I dont love before christmas. If I do I loose $500. This have really gotten me to think. I honestly want to find my dream woman, Im done with the ONS, but what am I doing about it? Do I really give our paths an opportunity to meet if I do what I do now? This is the conclusion I came to:
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The success in meeting our dream woman — and keeping her for the long term — actually lies in seeing a much larger picture. In more specific terms, every man should envision the kind of woman who can help him achieve (and share) his “dream” life…the life that he’s always imagined for himself. This means choosing a woman equipped with the qualities necessary to love and support him in achieving those dreams, no matter what they may be. Because relationships based on physical attraction do not stand the test of time.
So get to work…as in right now…clarifying your personal “vision” of an exciting, happy, fulfilling life. Once you do, guess what? The qualities that your “dream woman” must possess to share and help you achieve those dreams will become immediately obvious. So go figure yourself out. In other words, if you’re that outgoing world-traveler with dreams of sailing the world, you must take action to match up with a woman with a genuine sense of spontaneity, a passion for nature, a fearless love of adventure…you name it. I mean, if you are looking for an athletic woman to date why not get involved in activities that she would most likely associate herself with. I think so many men sell themselves short by thinking they will never be able to find the woman of their dreams, so in turn they don’t get out there, which leads to the self fulfilling prophecy. Don’t sell yourself short! Help the true woman of your dreams find you.
The hard part about dating isn’t figuring out what you want, it’s “arranging your life so you cross paths with that person”. Figuring out how to meet that person is the challenge most single people ignore. When you know what you want, you will know where to look. If you’re looking for something more serious, you might think about not looking for love among a bunch of desperate drunks. You certainly cannot meet the girl of your dreams if you are just sitting on your couch thinking about her.
If you are a real match, she will be absolutely beautiful in your eyes. Forget what other guys brag about their foxy babe. Don’t be stuck on what society says is ideal. You never know who you will click with once you are together. Remember, society doesn’t have to live with her, you do.
Expect Results… But Not Tons. When you get REALLY specific about what you want, you will end up with significantly fewer results, but thats what we need. We´re searching for quality over quantity.
Get out a piece of paper, and write down a detailed list of what your dream-woman is like. Think of every quality you can that matters to you. In addition to making this list, you also need to think about which of these types of traits are most important to you. In other words, now you should rank them. You don’t have to rank every single trait, perhaps just the top five or ten characteristics of a woman that you find most attractive. What female characteristics appeal to you the most? Remember, there is no wrong answer. You must be completely honest, because success in meeting your dream-woman depends on your sincere definition of what that person is like.
My dreamwoman
My dream woman has an intense and aggresive look with a playful smile. She is cool with some attitude. She is a brunett with a latina body and not taler then 165cm. She is a bit of a tomboy but also very feminine, loving, caring and family oriented. She likes adventures, sports, is spontaneous and are not afraid of getting dirty. She is old fashinoed and like the simple life. She has an positive outlook on life with passion and ambition in something worthwhile. She is smart, funny and sarcastic. She is comftarble with who she are and is very genuine and honest. She believes in me, she is supportive but she also challenges me to grow. She is comfortable with her own sexuality.
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I love the way your mind works and I love the brutal honesty.
Good luck with the search!
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The question after this is; Why do you want your dreamwoman? (serious).
to get more respect, attention, sex, money? etc… and then what’s next?
To ultimate answer should be , to be happy, a happy person, experience happiness or whatever..
that’s what every person want but there ‘re different roads to happiness and joy.
Good luck with your search for happiness and joy. ; ) lol
Thanks for your feedback and nice words guys!
Thats actually a good question JEFLUNA, and thats def gonna be my next thing to answer. What quickly comes in my mind is ofcourse happiness but also love and emotions. I wanna meet someone to share my life with. Someone to experience life together with. It may sound gay to some, and normal to others. We are all different and we have to accept that.
That have been my biggest challenge in life. To get away from what others/and society thinks and do what I wanna do. Ive been sleeping with alot of girls just to be cool, but it hasnt really helped me that far in life. Im still on square one. Who will remember or care about my storeis 10 years from now? So yeah, Ive always thought it was gay to stick to one girl. We men are hunters, predators, we´re ment to spread our seed, we´re not ment to live a monogam life etc. But Ive realized that thats not me. That was just how I thought I would get most respect and pride. But I cant do it anymore. The hole just gets bigger and bigger. Sometime it time to make a choise.
Anyways. lets see what happens next.
You ‘re looking for external things to make you happy. Go deep into yourself…..and look who or what’s there.
I hope nobody, only stillness and peace. ( I am not a Buddha) lol.
When you have found inner peace then you’re external world will also change..
and thoughts are just thoughs….they come and go …just like the clouds…
There ‘s nothing wrong with having a woman , I have one too, but I realise that the real happiness is always in
myself no matter what happens….
Good luck again! LOL
It’s great that you have a specific idea of your “dream woman,”, but to cut off sex to find her is ridiculous. Sex is the glue that holds relationships together- you won’t have a clue if someone is your dream girl until you’ve had sex with her. Just from what I’ve read, this bet you made seems like you’re trying to force something that can’t be forced. To find a girl who you feel is perfect for you, you may have to go through 100 more girls or 1 more. What I’m saying is I highly doubt one night stands are the problem here, but instead a lack of focus in finding the girl you want.
I think you are going to lose this bet because the way you’ve set it up you’re separating sex from love and if you’re talking about the long term with a girl sex and love are part of the same package.
Delaying sex for the purpose of strengthening a relationship is a huge error in my opinion.
Good luck with it.
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